Victoria Therapy for Couples with Trauma

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Therapy for Couples with Trauma in Victoria, BC

In line with the Somatic Experiencing (SE) definition of trauma, Kendra defines trauma as residing in the nervous system, and thus in the body. The trauma is not in the event. A traumatic event that causes trauma, is defined as any event that causes a long-term dysregulation in the autonomic nervous system (Levine, 1977, 1997). What is traumatic for one person may not be for another. Everyone is different in their response and ability to handle different situations based on genetic makeup, early environment, attachment histories, and past traumas.

Trauma inlcudes:

  • Any kind of abuse
  • Relational stress or divorce
  • Loss of a loved one or pet
  • Lack of security or safety
  • Surgery, illness, medical issues, or hospitalizations
  • Accidents, injury, or concussion
  • Witnessing violence or an accident
  • Restraining situations (Cars, planes, trains, boats, etc)
  • Birth complications
  • Natural disasters
  • Receiving shocking news

What may begin as an acute situation may lead to a continuation of symptoms due to the effect the trauma has on the nervous system.

This may be debilitating. Symptoms of trauma include:

  • Depression, low energy, lack of motivation
  • Anxiety, panic, fear
  • Numbness, lack of emotion, detachment
  • Anger
  • Obsession or hypervigilance
  • Flashbacks, intrusive thoughts
  • Avoidance
  • Nightmares and other sleep disturbances
  • Lost sense of self, confusion

In our modern society, trauma is a fact of life. Many people who experience trauma do not develop long-lasting trauma-related symptoms. The human body is resilient and much of the time we are able to “shake it off”. In many situations, however, there are internal and external processes that inhibit the body’s innate ability to return to a natural resting state.

With assistance, those who are experiencing trauma-related issues are able to develop resilience and inner-resources to come out of the post-traumatic state. Through developing body-mind awareness and increasing your capacity to release stuck trauma, you will heal and better be able to deal with trauma in the future.

With a background in yoga and meditation, as well as receiving supervision in Somatic Experiencing (SE), and now completing the SE training herself, Kendra incorporates the importance of the body-mind connection in her work with clients. Your body talks. By working with Kendra, you will be able to listen to the body’s wisdom, understand what is happening, and learn to work with the body in order to find balance and peace of mind.

Benefits of working with Kendra include:

  • Increased capacity to handle stress
  • Reduction in social anxiety and increased self-esteem
  • The ability to release emotions appropriately
  • Reduction of feelings of anger
  • Increased peace-of-mind
  • A sense of comfort and ease
  • An increased sense of awareness and mindfulness
  • The ability to calm yourself down and increased coping skills
  • Release pent up emotions from the past
  • An increase of positive emotional states such as happiness
  • Developing awareness of inner resources
  • Feeling safe
  • The ability to live in the moment
  • Developing a secure sense of self and boundaries
  • A decrease in codependency and an increase in interdependency


Along with using SE with couples in session, Kendra teaches touch-based techniques for couples to integrate into their daily lives to see increased benefits. By addressing any trauma-related issues and integrating practices into daily life, any beneficial changes that are found through couples therapy are more likely to be sustained.


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Did you know...

By integrating trauma therapy into your relationship, healing may have higher effectiveness in a shorter amount of time.


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